Trying To Find My Holiday SMILE

Grief is a heavy emotion, one that brings energy to a very low position. It places a block around a survivor that makes it very hard for loved ones on the other side to penetrate.

When people are grieving they want more than anything to have some type of contact with a loved one who has passed. The problem is, they do not realize what they are doing is the exact opposite of what is needed. For a soul to be able to communicate with others, those people need to be at a higher level, which can be achieved with being positive. Once they are capable of searching for positive memories, positive thoughts, then a stronger connection can be made. (blogger's note: be cognisant of groups or situations in which the reoccurring theme is desperation, darkness,depression)

It is certainly natural to be heavy-hearted for ourselves when we are used to having a physical-to-physical relationship with someone, but once a person passes a new relationship begins - that of being physical-to-spirit. It is up to you how much you want to develop this relationship.

It is important to grieve, but the important thing is to search for happiness and positivity along the way. By doing so, you are lifting the heavy blanket of sadness away from you, allowing your loved ones on the other side (heaven) to connect with you in ways you never thought possible!
-by Patrick Mathews

Bereavement4Breakfast note: The Holiday season can be one of the most difficult for those who grieve the loss of a child. There is no sugarcoating or smiling that will make everything okay. Memories, the loss of a future, and heartache are constant companions. This piece, written by Patrick Mathews, is a perspective worthy of considering for those who feel their child's soul/spirit continues to live. The timeline in which grieving parents are ready to consider a point of view such is this is individual. Blessings to you this Holiday Season. -Marsha @ A New Journey

Questions About Heaven And My Child

-by Marsha Abbott

Part 1... of a series with questions answered by a 'medium' about life in heaven. I often receive emails (at A New Journey) asking if I believe in mediums and/or if I would share information I find regarding mediums. This is the beginning of several articles on the subject. The following questions and answers are written by Concetta Bertoldi, author and medium....

IS THERE A HEAVEN?
Yes, the Other Side is heaven. I don't usually use that term. I'm more likely to say paradise or just the Other Side. Until we go back it's very hard for us to even imagine it, it's more miraculous than anything we can make, believe, perform, or create on this side. I just don't think the human mind has the capacity to grasp it, even though at our deepest core we do indeed remember it.


WHAT HAPPENS WHEN WE DIE?
People have fears. They've heard about going into the Light and want to know, does it hurt walking into the Light? Do we lose our memories? Is everything there that we had before?

What I've heard from souls on the Other Side is that when we die we leave our bodies behind, sort of like a floating process. It is a 'gravitation' toward the Light. There's a feeling of anticipation - maybe a little fear, but more anticipation.

Nothing is forgotten. In fact, whereas now we can remember only some highlights of our past, over there we remember every single moment and detail. Everything we knew, loved or experienced.

There is a period of transition, a time we get to reflect on our lives -- I don't feel that this is standardized in any way, it's different from individual to individual.

The true beauty of the Light (God) is that it is total harmony. Here on earth we can spend a lifetime struggling and we don't realize that we have an effect on others. It is like being in the dark but when we get over there, we get a clear view of the effect we had on others here on earth.


DO THE SOULS OF OUR LOVED ONES EVER WANT TO COME BACK TO US? ARE THEY SORRY THEY LEFT?
I have never had a soul tell me they are sorry they left. Maybe they are not entirely happy about the circumstances of their crossing, but that's something different --they don't want those they've left on this side to be upset and grieving their loss so deeply. If they left someone suffering or left someone feeling guilty, they are sorry for this.

Remember, we are not of this physical world. Ultimately we belong to the larger universe that is God. We're here in this small part of the universe to study and learn and have certain experiences that only the physical world can offer. Dying and being on the Other Side is like a summer vacation from this physical world. It's a rare child who will say that she wishes she could go back to school before September, and likewise I've never heard a soul express the wish to go back before it's her time to reincarnate. Once they are on the Other Side, they understand the journey they've just completed. They love us still. Their love lasts through eternity. But the Other Side is paradise and unlimited and they don't need to come back into physical form to be with us.

Part 2 will contain Concetta's answers to the questions: Why would someone have a short life? Do the living have certain illnesses to teach us certain lessons? Do we have a choice in who our parents will be before we are born?

*Note: These are the opinions of medium Concetta Bertoldi (pictured). She consults regularly with member os Britain's royal family, American celebrities, politicians, and others. Her practice has a two-year waiting list. She lives in New Jersey with her husband.
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One of Marsha's two daughters daughters (19 years old) was killed in a gun accident in Sept ‘09. She maintains a facebook page titled A New Journey, dedicated to helping grieving parents. She lives with her husband in the Pacific Northwest. See Blog Archive for additional articles.